3 MAGICAL WAYS to EFFECTIVELY MANAGE YOUR TEEN'S SCHOOL PROBLEMS

3 MAGICAL WAYS to EFFECTIVELY MANAGE YOUR TEEN'S SCHOOL PROBLEMS

How many times have we heard or used the cliché, “what are you going to do, work at McDonalds?”  Parents try to instill the love for education in their teens to give them a better future. For many families this is a smooth sailing process with only the occasional difficulty.  For others, it is a source of constant stress and worry. Regardless of whether it is occasional or more frequent, her are three tips to addressing any school issue.

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3WAYS TO MOTIVATE YOUR TEEN TOWARDS SUCCESS

3WAYS TO MOTIVATE YOUR TEEN TOWARDS SUCCESS

Motivation is based on what we attach value to.  The old way of trying to ensure teens follow through was to slam them with a consequence.  Well the new generation of teens are smarter and don’t care about consequences most of the time.  Sure they may initially throw a fit and yell and scream but generally they fall into apathy quickly and parents feel hopeless that their approach failed.  So here are the 3 ways to ensure your teen is motivated without nagging, arguing or using consequences.

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5 CRITICAL STRATEGIES TO MANAGING BLENDED FAMILIES

5 CRITICAL STRATEGIES TO MANAGING BLENDED FAMILIES

In today's society of frequent divorce and remarriage the term blended family has become a norm.  While "The Brady Bunch" highlighted the reality of this arrangement back in the 60's, it is more often than not a more painful transition and ongoing experience for both the children and the parents.  Thankfully, by incorporating these 5 critical strategies, you can have the best plan to eliminate many of the challenges that might otherwise derail your new family dynamic.

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3 WAYS TO HELP YOUR TEEN COPE WITH DIVORCE

3 WAYS TO HELP YOUR TEEN COPE WITH DIVORCE

With the divorce rate in America passing 50 percent, and with the stress of children cited as one of the leading reasons for divorce, it is important to know the best way to support your teen through this painful and inherently sad process.  Here are 3 ways to help your teens cope with divorce.

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PRAISE AS A CONSTRUCTIVE TOOL: ENDING THE NEGATIVE COMMUNICATION CYCLE

PRAISE AS A CONSTRUCTIVE TOOL: ENDING THE NEGATIVE COMMUNICATION CYCLE

As a parent, life is full of balancing on many fine lines of too little and too much. Communication can undoubtedly go into that category of “hard to balance.” Communication is a prime tool in raising children, it affects their reaction, their interaction with others, and their expectation as they grow. Thus, it is important to keep communication positive, and less negative, no matter what the situation you may be facing.

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HOW TIMMY, A 15-YEAR-OLD HIGH SCHOOL TEEN, TURNED FROM BEING THE SCHOOL REBEL TO THE CLASS VALEDICTORIAN.

HOW TIMMY, A 15-YEAR-OLD HIGH SCHOOL TEEN, TURNED FROM BEING THE SCHOOL REBEL TO THE CLASS VALEDICTORIAN.

You see, when Timmy’s parents first called me for a consultation they where distraught.  They had found Timmy’s phone lying on the counter while he was at soccer practice, and they decided to take a look.  What they saw shocked them to say the least.  In his SnapChat story, they saw pictures of him with huge clouds of smoke coming out of his mouth.

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5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LEARN HOW TO PARENT YOUR TEENS FROM THE EXPERTS 


5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LEARN HOW TO PARENT YOUR TEENS FROM THE EXPERTS 


I want my teenager to take school seriously.  I want to be done with all the back and forth arguing that happens every time I ask my teen to do anything around the house.  If only my teen was respectful, would it be so much easier to hear his point of view. 

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NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

The year it all comes together.  Yes, being a senior in high school is a time for reflection, a time to prepare for the next chapter, a time to say goodbye, and a time to celebrate.  Wait a minute; it is still a school year, isn’t it?  Doesn’t that mean there are still expectations to perform well and finish strong?  With college admissions often based on the condition of maintaining academic performance, and scholarships dependent on performance as well, it is critical that senior year be taken just as seriously as all others.  Enter the dreaded senior-itis.

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UNDERSTANDING AND MANAGING TEEN IDENTITY FORMATION

UNDERSTANDING AND MANAGING TEEN IDENTITY FORMATION

Noted psychologist, Erick Erikson, described the period of adolescence in psycho-social terms of ego-identity vs. role confusion.  I think all of us can relate to this explanation if we remember what life was like as a teenager.  What clothes do I wear?  What music do I listen to?  How do I stay current with movies and shows so I don’t seem out of place?  

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4 WAYS TO REDUCE ANXIETY IN YOUR TEEN

4 WAYS TO REDUCE ANXIETY IN YOUR TEEN

Fear of the unknown, fear of the future, fear of judgment or lack of acceptance, all of these are other ways of describing anxiety.  Whatever the root cause or the irrational fear behind it, anxiety can be debilitating to the point of paralysis.  For any person who deals with anxiety, the challenge lies in how to manage and eventually overcome the limitations that it creates, but for teens the impact speaks at a level of core beliefs that can drastically alter the trajectory of the developmental milestone of identity formation.

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REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

Consequences are built on deterrence theory.  The idea is that if you cause pain to me, I will cause pain of equal or greater value in return.  Structuring a behavioral modification plan for your teen around this concept is doomed for failure.  Over time your teen will develop consequence fatigue and lose interest in changing because the threat of losing no longer holds the same weight.

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3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

The risk posed by online predators to our sons and daughters is extraordinary.  These men often pose as teens themselves and promise money, escape, and the attention that so many teens desperately crave.  They have infiltrated every crevice of online life and are experts on how to appeal to the teen psyche.

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