NEGOTIATION SKILLS AS AN EFFECTIVE TEEN PARENTING STRATEGY

NEGOTIATION SKILLS AS AN EFFECTIVE TEEN PARENTING STRATEGY

Does this sound familiar?  “Because I am your parent and I said so!”  The next statement would sound like this, “well I am still not doing it and you can’t make me.”  Ultimately, this exchange ends with a behavioral escalation and then consequences.  None of which results in the desired task being completed.

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SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

In sports it is said that one rises to level of his competition.  I suppose it could be conversely stated that one can also lower them to inferior completion.  Overall I think this means that when presented a challenge that we are encouraged or expected to meet, we generally will outperform our expectations.  This does not exempt us from failing to succeed or that we always reach our desired outcome, but it does make us think twice about how we set the bar for our challenging teens.

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NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

The year it all comes together.  Yes, being a senior in high school is a time for reflection, a time to prepare for the next chapter, a time to say goodbye, and a time to celebrate.  Wait a minute; it is still a school year, isn’t it?  Doesn’t that mean there are still expectations to perform well and finish strong?  With college admissions often based on the condition of maintaining academic performance, and scholarships dependent on performance as well, it is critical that senior year be taken just as seriously as all others.  Enter the dreaded senior-itis.

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TEEN CUTTING: COPING WITH SELF-HARM

TEEN CUTTING: COPING WITH SELF-HARM

Teen depression is not a phase.  The risk of suicide among depressed teens is scary.  Recent statistics show that more teenagers and young adults die from suicide than from cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, stroke, pneumonia, influenza, and chronic lung disease, combined. Each day in America, there are an average of over 5,240 attempts by young people grades 7-12. 

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UNDERSTANDING AND MANAGING TEEN IDENTITY FORMATION

UNDERSTANDING AND MANAGING TEEN IDENTITY FORMATION

Noted psychologist, Erick Erikson, described the period of adolescence in psycho-social terms of ego-identity vs. role confusion.  I think all of us can relate to this explanation if we remember what life was like as a teenager.  What clothes do I wear?  What music do I listen to?  How do I stay current with movies and shows so I don’t seem out of place?  

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4 WAYS TO REDUCE ANXIETY IN YOUR TEEN

4 WAYS TO REDUCE ANXIETY IN YOUR TEEN

Fear of the unknown, fear of the future, fear of judgment or lack of acceptance, all of these are other ways of describing anxiety.  Whatever the root cause or the irrational fear behind it, anxiety can be debilitating to the point of paralysis.  For any person who deals with anxiety, the challenge lies in how to manage and eventually overcome the limitations that it creates, but for teens the impact speaks at a level of core beliefs that can drastically alter the trajectory of the developmental milestone of identity formation.

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THE TOUGH TEEN TALK: WHAT NOT TO WEAR IN PUBLIC

THE TOUGH TEEN TALK: WHAT NOT TO WEAR IN PUBLIC

We all know the stories of teens hiding clothes in their backpacks so they can change at school.  This allows them to avoid the conflict of arguing with their parents about their choice in clothing, yet still have their preferred style of self-expression.  With the over-sexualized culture we live in, this can have devastating results. 

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REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

Consequences are built on deterrence theory.  The idea is that if you cause pain to me, I will cause pain of equal or greater value in return.  Structuring a behavioral modification plan for your teen around this concept is doomed for failure.  Over time your teen will develop consequence fatigue and lose interest in changing because the threat of losing no longer holds the same weight.

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REAL ANSWERS FOR YOUR TEEN'S NEGATIVE SELF TALK

REAL ANSWERS FOR YOUR TEEN'S NEGATIVE SELF TALK

We have all heard, you are what you eat.  What we don’t often realize is that our minds operate on the same premise that what we feed it will be used to build it.  Now obviously our minds don’t actually eat, but they do process external messages and internal thoughts every moment of the day.  So what do you do when you notice your teen has a poor self-concept, low self-esteem, or does not deal well with failure?

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3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

The risk posed by online predators to our sons and daughters is extraordinary.  These men often pose as teens themselves and promise money, escape, and the attention that so many teens desperately crave.  They have infiltrated every crevice of online life and are experts on how to appeal to the teen psyche.

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THE TECHNOLOGY TRAP: HOW SOCIAL MEDIA AND TEXT APPS ARE KEEPING PARENTS IN THE DARK

THE TECHNOLOGY TRAP: HOW SOCIAL MEDIA AND TEXT APPS ARE KEEPING PARENTS IN THE DARK

It seems so long ago that we had to call a landline to get a hold of someone we wanted to have a conversation with.  Long gone are the days where parents acted as the gatekeeper for who their kids talked to.  Now it is as easy to talk to anybody you like with the click of a button, and with people posing as others on the Internet it is near impossible to be certain who your kid is actually talking to.

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HOW TO MOVE FROM DEFIANCE TO COMPLIANCE IN YOUR TEEN

HOW TO MOVE FROM DEFIANCE TO COMPLIANCE IN YOUR TEEN

Being a teenager means to suffer from the disease of defiance.  For some, it is merely refusing to do the dishes or taking out the trash.  For others, it is refusing to do their homework or chronically cutting school.  Some teens go as far as threating violence against their parents, cursing at them, throwing objects or punching holes in the wall.

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HOW TO STOP YOUR TEEN BEFORE THE FIRST DRUG EXPERIENCE

HOW TO STOP YOUR TEEN BEFORE THE FIRST DRUG EXPERIENCE

As parents we are tasked to protect our children from mistakes that can have repercussions that last their lifetime.  We understand that most poor choices can offer excellent learning opportunities but there are some pitfalls that keep us up at night with thoughts of dread.  In my experience, there is no greater point of worry than the thought that your teenage son or daughter is experimenting with drugs.

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3 MAJOR COMMUNICATION STRATEGIES ON HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TEEN

3 MAJOR COMMUNICATION STRATEGIES ON HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TEEN

As any parent of a teen will tell you, they are not very forthcoming with information.  Ask any teenager how their day went, and many times you will hear “fine,” “good,” or simply “ok” as a response.  This can be frustrating when all a parent really wants is a close relationship with their teen to have a better understanding of their decision making process and to have peace of mind that they or actually, “fine.”

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5 TEEN WARNING SIGNS OF SERIOUS DEPRESSION

5 TEEN WARNING SIGNS OF SERIOUS DEPRESSION

Depression is the most serious mental health issue facing our teens today.  This year 2.8 million American teens will experience depression.  Of those 2.8 million, 30 percent will also develop a substance use disorder, and a depressed teen is 12 times more likely to commit suicide.  

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PROTECTING YOUR TEEN FROM DIGITAL ADDICTIONS

PROTECTING YOUR TEEN FROM DIGITAL ADDICTIONS

It is no secret that we live in the digital age.  Since the introduction of the internet over 2 decades ago, to the creation of the smartphone a decade later, we have been moving at lighting speed to find ways in which we can incorporate technology into all facets of our lives. 

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