5 AMAZING SIGNS YOU'RE DOING IT RIGHT with YOUR TEEN

5 AMAZING SIGNS YOU'RE DOING IT RIGHT with YOUR TEEN

With everything there is in this world to make you question whether or not you are being a good parent it can be hard to think of yourself as competent.  We live in a world of parent shaming and social media has added to this ultra-competitive nature of parenting by giving everyone with an opinion the ability to question the decions you are making.  This article will turn that approach around.  Here are 5 signs that you are doing an amazing job with your teen.

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5 MAJOR TIPS TO SURVIVE THE PROM

5 MAJOR TIPS TO SURVIVE THE PROM

Prom night is the end of childhood for your teen, the beginning of adulthood, and the true test of responsibility and behaving. Teens spend almost the entire year planning, shopping, and talking about prom night; they see the few hours as one of the most important night of their college career. However parents see the night as emotional and riddled with fear.

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HOW TO AVOID ARGUING: TEACHING TEENS R-E-S-P-E-C-T

HOW TO AVOID ARGUING: TEACHING TEENS R-E-S-P-E-C-T

As your child grows up, it is likely you will disagree on various things. It will start out as simple arguments, such as putting their coat on or putting toys away. As they reach adolescence, these arguments will grow to more serious topics, and if you aren’t careful, they will grow to more seriously sized arguments with worse repercussions.

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HOW TO RESPOND TO YOUR TEENS MUSIC: ART OF SELF-EXPRESSION

HOW TO RESPOND TO YOUR TEENS MUSIC: ART OF SELF-EXPRESSION

Music can take many forms, but at its root in every form it relays various emotions. Sounds and lyrics portray and talk about love, heartbreak, friendship, tragedy, happiness, sadness, and loneliness. It is the one form of art that is relatable no matter your age, gender, or race, or what you are going through. You can find music to fit your mood, attitude and want for self-expression.

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STRAIGHT TALK WITH YOUR TEEN ABOUT DATING & SEX

STRAIGHT TALK WITH YOUR TEEN ABOUT DATING & SEX

The topic that most parents dread as their child nears the teenage years: dating and sexuality. But if you are dreading it, think about how your teen feels? You were their age once. Except now things are probably a little different; there are millions of resources at their fingertips thanks to the internet. The sooner that you can talk to them about dating and sex before they learn what they need to know from the media, friends, and their own personal research, the better.

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THE INFAMOUS MIDDLE SCHOOL PEER PRESSURE: REAL STRATEGIES

THE INFAMOUS MIDDLE SCHOOL PEER PRESSURE: REAL STRATEGIES

A recent client of mine was severely bullied for having an iPhone older than a 5.  He asked his mom to change schools.  Another client was sent home in tears because he liked theatre more than sports.  Furthermore, a young girl was publicly shamed because it was discovered that she was sending naked pictures of herself to boys she liked because she was told they would like her. 

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HOW TIMMY, A 15-YEAR-OLD HIGH SCHOOL TEEN, TURNED FROM BEING THE SCHOOL REBEL TO THE CLASS VALEDICTORIAN.

HOW TIMMY, A 15-YEAR-OLD HIGH SCHOOL TEEN, TURNED FROM BEING THE SCHOOL REBEL TO THE CLASS VALEDICTORIAN.

You see, when Timmy’s parents first called me for a consultation they where distraught.  They had found Timmy’s phone lying on the counter while he was at soccer practice, and they decided to take a look.  What they saw shocked them to say the least.  In his SnapChat story, they saw pictures of him with huge clouds of smoke coming out of his mouth.

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5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LEARN HOW TO PARENT YOUR TEENS FROM THE EXPERTS 


5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LEARN HOW TO PARENT YOUR TEENS FROM THE EXPERTS 


I want my teenager to take school seriously.  I want to be done with all the back and forth arguing that happens every time I ask my teen to do anything around the house.  If only my teen was respectful, would it be so much easier to hear his point of view. 

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NEGOTIATION SKILLS AS AN EFFECTIVE TEEN PARENTING STRATEGY

NEGOTIATION SKILLS AS AN EFFECTIVE TEEN PARENTING STRATEGY

Does this sound familiar?  “Because I am your parent and I said so!”  The next statement would sound like this, “well I am still not doing it and you can’t make me.”  Ultimately, this exchange ends with a behavioral escalation and then consequences.  None of which results in the desired task being completed.

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SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

In sports it is said that one rises to level of his competition.  I suppose it could be conversely stated that one can also lower them to inferior completion.  Overall I think this means that when presented a challenge that we are encouraged or expected to meet, we generally will outperform our expectations.  This does not exempt us from failing to succeed or that we always reach our desired outcome, but it does make us think twice about how we set the bar for our challenging teens.

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NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

The year it all comes together.  Yes, being a senior in high school is a time for reflection, a time to prepare for the next chapter, a time to say goodbye, and a time to celebrate.  Wait a minute; it is still a school year, isn’t it?  Doesn’t that mean there are still expectations to perform well and finish strong?  With college admissions often based on the condition of maintaining academic performance, and scholarships dependent on performance as well, it is critical that senior year be taken just as seriously as all others.  Enter the dreaded senior-itis.

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REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

Consequences are built on deterrence theory.  The idea is that if you cause pain to me, I will cause pain of equal or greater value in return.  Structuring a behavioral modification plan for your teen around this concept is doomed for failure.  Over time your teen will develop consequence fatigue and lose interest in changing because the threat of losing no longer holds the same weight.

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