3WAYS TO MOTIVATE YOUR TEEN TOWARDS SUCCESS

3WAYS TO MOTIVATE YOUR TEEN TOWARDS SUCCESS

Motivation is based on what we attach value to.  The old way of trying to ensure teens follow through was to slam them with a consequence.  Well the new generation of teens are smarter and don’t care about consequences most of the time.  Sure they may initially throw a fit and yell and scream but generally they fall into apathy quickly and parents feel hopeless that their approach failed.  So here are the 3 ways to ensure your teen is motivated without nagging, arguing or using consequences.

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5 CRITICAL STRATEGIES TO MANAGING BLENDED FAMILIES

5 CRITICAL STRATEGIES TO MANAGING BLENDED FAMILIES

In today's society of frequent divorce and remarriage the term blended family has become a norm.  While "The Brady Bunch" highlighted the reality of this arrangement back in the 60's, it is more often than not a more painful transition and ongoing experience for both the children and the parents.  Thankfully, by incorporating these 5 critical strategies, you can have the best plan to eliminate many of the challenges that might otherwise derail your new family dynamic.

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HOW TO STOP YOUR TEEN BEFORE THE FIRST DRUG EXPERIENCE

HOW TO STOP YOUR TEEN BEFORE THE FIRST DRUG EXPERIENCE

As parents we are tasked to protect our children from mistakes that can have repercussions that last their lifetime.  We understand that most poor choices can offer excellent learning opportunities but there are some pitfalls that keep us up at night with thoughts of dread.  In my experience, there is no greater point of worry than the thought that your teenage son or daughter is experimenting with drugs.

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SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

In sports it is said that one rises to level of his competition.  I suppose it could be conversely stated that one can also lower them to inferior completion.  Overall I think this means that when presented a challenge that we are encouraged or expected to meet, we generally will outperform our expectations.  This does not exempt us from failing to succeed or that we always reach our desired outcome, but it does make us think twice about how we set the bar for our challenging teens.

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NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

NAVIGATING YOUR TEEN'S SENIOR YEAR TO SUCCESS

The year it all comes together.  Yes, being a senior in high school is a time for reflection, a time to prepare for the next chapter, a time to say goodbye, and a time to celebrate.  Wait a minute; it is still a school year, isn’t it?  Doesn’t that mean there are still expectations to perform well and finish strong?  With college admissions often based on the condition of maintaining academic performance, and scholarships dependent on performance as well, it is critical that senior year be taken just as seriously as all others.  Enter the dreaded senior-itis.

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UNDERSTANDING AND MANAGING TEEN IDENTITY FORMATION

UNDERSTANDING AND MANAGING TEEN IDENTITY FORMATION

Noted psychologist, Erick Erikson, described the period of adolescence in psycho-social terms of ego-identity vs. role confusion.  I think all of us can relate to this explanation if we remember what life was like as a teenager.  What clothes do I wear?  What music do I listen to?  How do I stay current with movies and shows so I don’t seem out of place?  

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REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

REAL CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR TEEN THAT WORK

Consequences are built on deterrence theory.  The idea is that if you cause pain to me, I will cause pain of equal or greater value in return.  Structuring a behavioral modification plan for your teen around this concept is doomed for failure.  Over time your teen will develop consequence fatigue and lose interest in changing because the threat of losing no longer holds the same weight.

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REAL ANSWERS FOR YOUR TEEN'S NEGATIVE SELF TALK

REAL ANSWERS FOR YOUR TEEN'S NEGATIVE SELF TALK

We have all heard, you are what you eat.  What we don’t often realize is that our minds operate on the same premise that what we feed it will be used to build it.  Now obviously our minds don’t actually eat, but they do process external messages and internal thoughts every moment of the day.  So what do you do when you notice your teen has a poor self-concept, low self-esteem, or does not deal well with failure?

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3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

The risk posed by online predators to our sons and daughters is extraordinary.  These men often pose as teens themselves and promise money, escape, and the attention that so many teens desperately crave.  They have infiltrated every crevice of online life and are experts on how to appeal to the teen psyche.

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