HOW TO MOVE FROM DEFIANCE TO COMPLIANCE IN YOUR TEEN

HOW TO MOVE FROM DEFIANCE TO COMPLIANCE IN YOUR TEEN

Being a teenager means to suffer from the disease of defiance.  For some, it is merely refusing to do the dishes or taking out the trash.  For others, it is refusing to do their homework or chronically cutting school.  Some teens go as far as threating violence against their parents, cursing at them, throwing objects or punching holes in the wall.

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HOW TO STOP YOUR TEEN BEFORE THE FIRST DRUG EXPERIENCE

HOW TO STOP YOUR TEEN BEFORE THE FIRST DRUG EXPERIENCE

As parents we are tasked to protect our children from mistakes that can have repercussions that last their lifetime.  We understand that most poor choices can offer excellent learning opportunities but there are some pitfalls that keep us up at night with thoughts of dread.  In my experience, there is no greater point of worry than the thought that your teenage son or daughter is experimenting with drugs.

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5 TEEN WARNING SIGNS OF SERIOUS DEPRESSION

5 TEEN WARNING SIGNS OF SERIOUS DEPRESSION

Depression is the most serious mental health issue facing our teens today.  This year 2.8 million American teens will experience depression.  Of those 2.8 million, 30 percent will also develop a substance use disorder, and a depressed teen is 12 times more likely to commit suicide.  

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SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

SETTING THE BAR WITH YOUR CHALLENGING TEEN

In sports it is said that one rises to level of his competition.  I suppose it could be conversely stated that one can also lower them to inferior completion.  Overall I think this means that when presented a challenge that we are encouraged or expected to meet, we generally will outperform our expectations.  This does not exempt us from failing to succeed or that we always reach our desired outcome, but it does make us think twice about how we set the bar for our challenging teens.

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4 WAYS TO REDUCE ANXIETY IN YOUR TEEN

4 WAYS TO REDUCE ANXIETY IN YOUR TEEN

Fear of the unknown, fear of the future, fear of judgment or lack of acceptance, all of these are other ways of describing anxiety.  Whatever the root cause or the irrational fear behind it, anxiety can be debilitating to the point of paralysis.  For any person who deals with anxiety, the challenge lies in how to manage and eventually overcome the limitations that it creates, but for teens the impact speaks at a level of core beliefs that can drastically alter the trajectory of the developmental milestone of identity formation.

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REAL ANSWERS FOR YOUR TEEN'S NEGATIVE SELF TALK

REAL ANSWERS FOR YOUR TEEN'S NEGATIVE SELF TALK

We have all heard, you are what you eat.  What we don’t often realize is that our minds operate on the same premise that what we feed it will be used to build it.  Now obviously our minds don’t actually eat, but they do process external messages and internal thoughts every moment of the day.  So what do you do when you notice your teen has a poor self-concept, low self-esteem, or does not deal well with failure?

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3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

3 KEY RULES ABOUT ONLINE ACTIVITY

The risk posed by online predators to our sons and daughters is extraordinary.  These men often pose as teens themselves and promise money, escape, and the attention that so many teens desperately crave.  They have infiltrated every crevice of online life and are experts on how to appeal to the teen psyche.

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